• The Lover Team

The Blowjob Guide

Updated: Jul 17


When it comes to male sexual arousal, there are few things as universally popular as oral sex, or the blowjob, as it’s more commonly known.


But performing oral sex can still be intimidating. We’ve all been there - getting distracted by thoughts like “Is he enjoying it?” or “Am I doing this right?” instead of focusing on male arousal areas and our own pleasure.

No one teaches you this stuff. So how are you supposed to know what to do and when? The good news is there a few things that can make it go wrong, but lots of ways to make it go right... Everyone has different pleasure points, so it's about working out which ones work for you partner.


Let’s explore the secrets of giving good oral!


Male Arousal Areas


It might seem counter-intuitive when we're talking about giving great blowjobs, but understanding male arousal areas away from the genitals is a great starting place. Anything from a scratch of the inner thigh, to a stroke of the stomach or a sensuous fondle of their perineum, can be intensely pleasurable.


Every guy is different, so take your time learning what works for your man. Then use that knowledge to build them up to oral sex - rather than jumping straight in.


Get into a good position


A good position that focuses on male arousal areas is on your knees while he’s sitting down. Ideally with a cushion or something soft under your knees.

This will give you really good access to his penis, his testicles, and other sensitive areas, without forcing your neck into strange and uncomfortable positions.

Alternatively, you can be lying comfortably next to, or on top of, your partner, or sideways with your head propped up.


If you're comfy - you're also going to relax into it and not rush the experience.


Going Down & Male Arousal Triggers

Remember, there isn’t one particular way of giving a blow job which is ‘right’. Most men enjoy lots of different types of oral stimulation, so feel free to play around and experiment.

Anything from long licks up the shaft, to kissing using only your lips, or circling around the head with your tongue is going to ramp up their sexual arousal.

To boost those male arousal triggers, use your mouth on the testicles, moving down to the perineum (the area between the testicles and anus). You can also user your fingers here to massage the perineum and see how your partner reacts. Many men find this just as pleasurable as stimulating the penis.


Why not experiment with taking the testicles gently in the mouth? You could do one at a time or two! Some men enjoy gentle sucking and tugging with your lips, other men find this much too intense.

Check-in with your partner regularly and pay attention to male arousal signs.


Simultaneous Stimulation

Just because it's oral - don't feel confined to just using your mouth... Consider simultaneous stimulation - where you’re focusing on two areas at once. The two different styles of stimulation can take their pleasure to new levels.

This could mean you’re stroking the shaft of the penis whilst you’re licking the head, or fondling the testicles whilst focusing your mouth elsewhere.


You can also consider using a finger or two, in or around his anus, with his permission. Go really slow here and pay close attention to how he is reacting - he is likely to give some clear feedback, but for many it’s a key male arousal area.


On that note, any time you’re engaging in anal play, make sure your finger/s are very wet or lubed up and your fingernails are very very well-trimmed.


Of course there are endless variations, tips and tricks you can try (cool mint anyone?), but for the full guide on giving oral - download the Lover app, and check out 'Going Down On Him'.

If you enjoyed this article, head over to our article on the importance of foreplay here.


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