Low Sex Drive In Men
What is low sex drive?
Low sexual desire, or low libido can be described as the decrease in sex drive which can interfere with a person’s desire to engage in sexual activity and it is considered a sexual dysfunction.
The truth is, many men (and women) will experience different levels of desire, and that desire will fluctuate throughout their lifetime. Sex, for some of us, is never far from our minds, and for others it tends to come and go - and may not always be on our mind!
Most of the time it’s totally natural, and something we can take control of. However, if it is something that you are finding distressing it is best to seek help.
What are the symptoms of low sex drive in men?
When it comes to experiencing a low sex drive, there can be a few side effects. A decreased sex drive, particularly for men, can feel worrying or unsettling - especially as men have been fed with the idea that “real” men are always ready for sex.
On occasion, this anxiety around experiencing low desire can lead to emotional and physical side effects, such as erectile dysfunction and relationship conflict, or even a sexless relationship. Relationship conflict is particularly common among couples, as the higher desire partner can feel unwanted or alone as they are always the one instigating sex with the partner who has a low sex drive.
It’s important to note that experiencing low desire does not mean you have erectile dysfunction, but on occasion, if not addressed, it can lead to feelings of anxiety which can result in ED.
What causes low sexual desire?
There are so many things that can cause a low sexual drive, and they can be both psychological and physiological.
Psychological causes can include relationship dissatisfaction or problems within a relationship, stress and depression. On top of that, if the sex you are having is not pleasurable, or you have a sexual dysfunction, this will likely be impacting on your levels of desire too.
Physiological causes include underlying health problems like reduced hormone levels (low testosterone), aging and even doing too much exercise or too little exercise. Likewise, if you're using drugs or alcohol you might find this causes sexual dysfunction, including decreased desire.
There is usually no one reason why a person will be experiencing low desire, so it’s about checking in with yourself and seeing where the problem may lie.
Is my sex drive normal?
A lot of people are intrigued to know if their sex drive is "normal". The simple answer to this is probably. Each person has their own unique sex drive, and this is impacted by many things. In fact, a person’s sex drive exists along a continuum, and you may find at one point in time it is a lot lower than it might be at other times. On top of that, sexual attraction and desire toward a partner will naturally fluctuate over time, and this is nothing to worry about.
Unless you find yourself at an extreme, that's no sex drive at all for an extended period of time (unless you are asexual) or you can't get sex off your mind at all, fluctuations in sex drive don't need to be a cause for concern. That said - if it is impacting your life and relationships, or it is making you unhappy, we would always recommend seeking treatment or guidance to get you back on track.
At Lover, we have various courses designed to drive up desire so that you can get your desire back on track. If you're interested in finding out more, download the Lover app today or alternatively check out our articles on Eight Steps To Drive Up Desire and 10 Steps To Bring Back Sexual Desire.