If you're reading this, chances are you're looking for some fresh, fun ways to spice up things in the bedroom. But with so many options, it can be overwhelming for many of us to find the best sex position for us and our partner(s). Don’t worry, we're here to help!
Whether you're in a long-term relationship or just starting to explore your sexual desires, it's important to keep things exciting in the bedroom. And exploring new sex positions is one of the easiest ways you can do this, with almost endless options. Today, we’ll be discussing different positions to spice up your sex life, explore new routes to pleasure, and hopefully discover your new favorite sex position!
The Essentials: A Basic Sex position guide
There are certain sex positions that -almost- everyone has in their arsenal. These positions create the foundation of a healthy sexual life, and some of the more usual positions we’ll talk about later on are variations of these foundational positions.
So, let's get started and explore some of “the essentials”:
Missionary: The missionary position is one of the most intimate and classic sex positions. Too often written off as “boring” or “vanilla”, it can often be the most pleasurable position for some partners. There is a reason why it’s universally popular after all, so don’t worry if this is your “go-to”.
It involves the receiving partner lying flat on their back with their legs spread, while the penetrating partner kneels or lies between their legs.
This sex position allows for deep penetration and intimate eye contact, making it a great option for partners who want to feel close and connected.
Cowgirl: The cowgirl position is a great option for people – normally the female partner - who want to take control and be in charge. The ‘riding’ partner is able to control the pace, angle and rhythm from above – while maintaining eye contact with their partner below.
It involves the receiving partner straddling the penetrating partner, facing them while riding them.
This sex position provides ample stimulation for both partners and is a great option for people who want to explore other angles and sensations.
Spooning: The spooning position is a comfortable and intimate option for partners who want to feel close, but perhaps aren’t in the mood for deep eye contact. It is a particular favourite in the morning for some couples – particularly when you’ve not had time to brush your teeth yet!
Spooning involves both partners lying on their sides, facing the same direction, with the penetrating partner entering from behind.
This position allows for slow and gentle penetration while maintaining comfort for both partners - making it a great option if you’re in the mood for long, sensual sex.
These basic sex positions are just the tip of the iceberg, and there are countless positions to explore. But when you’re in a new relationship, it can often be worth starting with these foundational positions, because they can tell you a lot about what your partner does – and doesn’t – enjoy.
So resist the temptation to rush into the more advanced stuff, until you’ve really explored these basics and paid attention to how your partner responds to each of them
Getting Creative in the Bedroom: Adventurous sex positions
Moving onto some of the more adventurous positions, this is where the fun stuff begins. But make sure to do your stretches first! From slightly acrobatic moves to sex positions that require a bit more strength and flexibility, there's something for everyone in this section....
Doggy Style: The doggy-style position is only one step up from the basics, but that provides a powerful and intense experience for both partners. It can also bring a sense of dominance and submission into the experience, which can be intensely exciting for both parties.
The receiving partner gets down on all fours (like a dog), while the penetrating partner positions themselves behind them.
The receiving partner can experiment with the position of their knees, placing them wider or closer together depending on what feels best.
While the penetrating partner really controls the speed in this position. Their hands are also free to roam, giving them the opportunity to provide extra stimulation to either their own, or their partner’s body .
This sex position allows for deep penetration and provides a unique perspective, making it a great option for partners who want to try something from behind.
Reverse Cowgirl: The reverse cowgirl position is a fun and exciting variation of the classic cowgirl position. Facing away from each other can actually create the space for you each to drop into your own experience, which can be helpful if you’re often caught up in a busy mind during sex.
It involves the receiving partner straddling the penetrating partner, facing away from them while riding them.
This sex position provides ample stimulation for both partners. This can be a great way to stimulate the G-spot and achieve a deeper connection with your partner.
Standing: This position is all about the environment. Rather than being one for the bedroom, it works best when you’re up against the wall in the kitchen, the shower, or even down a quiet alleyway (if that’s your thing!)
It involves the receiving partner wrapping their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist while holding them up.
Naturally, this means there is some level of strength required by the penetrating partner – you don’t want to lose your grip just as you’re both approaching orgasm!
This sex position is great for those who want to add a little bit of a Hollywood feel to their sex lives, which can feel really arousing.
These positions offer a fun and challenging way to bring excitement to the bedroom, perfect for partners who have already explored some of the basic positions and are looking for something new. Of course, there are hundreds more to try – including variations of the above – so if you’re loving these suggestions, keep on exploring!
Unleashing Your Sexual Potential: Advanced-level sex positions
Ok – if you’ve made it this far, you’re ready for the advanced class. These are some of the more unique sex positions, which you might not have heard of before. And be warned – they involve a little bit more athleticism than you might be used to. But if you can get them right, they open up a whole new world of pleasure to enjoy!
Butterfly: The butterfly position is great for those who want to explore new sensations and try something different.
The Butterfly position involves the receiving partner lying on an elevated surface (such as a bed) and raising their legs, so that their toes are pointing at the ceiling. Their buttocks should be at groin level for their partner.
The penetrating partner then positions themselves for penetration, holding their partner’s legs (which should somewhere around eye level!)
This position allows for deeper penetration and increased stimulation to the G-spot.
Lotus: The lotus position is a tantric position that focuses on intimacy and connection. If you want to bring intimacy back to the bedroom, this might be just what you've been looking for!
The Lotus position involves the receiving partner wrapping their legs (that's where the name comes from!) around the penetrating partner, while the penetrating partner sits up facing their partner.
The receiving partner controls the pace, angle and rhythm from above. Think of it as a more complex version of the cowgirl position.
This sex position provides deep penetration and allows for plenty of skin-to-skin contact.
Sex position: The eagle position is an adventurous position that requires some flexibility, so make sure to do your streching exercises before trying it out!
The Eagle position involves the recieving partner laying on the edge of the bed while bending their legs back as far as possible. Imagine trying to touch your ears with your toes.
The penetrating partner then leans across controling the angle and deepness of penetration.
This sex position offers a different view and can create new sensations for both partners.
These positions, altough more complex, bring something new -and fun- into the equation; if you're up for the challenge try them out, you won't regrete it!
And remember, no matter what your sexual orientation or gender identity is, sex is an amazing part of life for many people. And it's important to know about the different sexual positions and practices that can help you have a safe and enjoyable experience.
With these tips in mind, it's time to start getting creative in the bedroom! Whether you try a new position every week or experiment with different combinations, the possibilities are endless. It's important to remember that communication is key when trying new positions and to listen to your body; have fun and always prioritize safety and consent. Remember, sex is all about exploration and finding what feels good for both partners. So, get out there and get busy!