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Going Down on a Penis

Penises are not known for their nuance, but there is more to them than popular culture says. This means that whether you call it a blowjob, going down, or anything else, oral sex with a penis can often be mechanical because of these assumptions. Pleasure in all forms is good when each action is intentional and sensual.


There are many ways you can be good at giving head. Exploration, tuning in to your partner, and enthusiasm, are just a few. Let’s jump into your one-stop guide on how to give a blow job.



How to Prepare for Oral Sex


Any type of oral sex will be more successful if everyone is mentally and physically relaxed. A safe environment, clean towels, and extra pillows for positioning are a good place to start. So are safer sex barriers and compatible lube and sex toys, particularly if you might have another type of sex afterward. For most sexual situations you want to ensure you are showered, hydrated, and fully aware of your and your partner’s sexually transmitted infection status.

How to give oral with a sensitive gag reflex?

Unlike porn videos, deep throating and having no gag reflex at all is hard to do. Remember, what you see in porn is being done by professional actors, and not everything that happens in porn is necessarily physically pleasurable.


There are some tricks for suppressing gag reflexes or working around them. But, don’t be ashamed if you gag while giving a blow job, just be careful not to bite down on your partner or go too deep which can cause you to accidentally vomit on your partner.


Throat numbing sprays can help make oral a bit more comfortable if your gag reflex is really worrying. Or, a free and easy way to trick your gag reflex is distracting your senses. An easy way to do this is to take your free hand and tuck your thumb into your fist and squeeze it. This pressure point can relieve your gag reflex slightly.


Remember to breathe through your nose in even breaths. Take breaks when you need to and remember, this is supposed to be fun and pleasurable. Do what works for you!


Explore the Erogenous Zones


Good oral sex involves the whole body, not just the genitals. It can be tempting to dive right for them but spend some time making out and warming up instead. Everyone experiences either responsive or spontaneous desire, or a mix of the two. That means that, regardless of gender, you and your partner can benefit from physical stimulation to increase interest in sex.