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Pain with Penetration: The Effects of Menopause on Sexual Intimacy


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Mood swings, hot flashes, low sexual desire – tick, tick, tick. We all know the typical symptoms of menopause, but what about some of the lesser-known challenges that come with the territory?


Quite literally putting a pause on your menstrual cycle, menopause is considered the time when a woman’s ovaries stop hormonal production and periods come to an end – typically around the age of 50.


And because that in itself isn’t enough to deal with, along with it comes a number of emotional and physical challenges… especially in the bedroom.


You may not be aware that menopausal pain and sex are closely linked. However, that doesn’t mean it has to be tolerated. In this blog, we’ll give you answers to your most pressing questions and equip you with the information you need to recognize, address, and overcome painful sex.


Why menopause could be causing you pain during sex


Your hormonal balance can be out of whack during menopause as estrogen levels fall. This is responsible for a few things, including dryness and thinning of the vaginal tissues. For this reason, you may well experience discomfort during sex and you wouldn’t be alone. Anywhere between 17-45% of postmenopausal women experience painful sex, that’s nearly half of us.


What if I don’t want penetration?


It’s perfectly ok and understandable not to want sex if it’s uncomfortable in any way. But don’t worry, you don’t have to take the vow of chastity just yet. After all, ‘outercourse’ is the new ‘intercourse’ right? You know - foreplay, or any form of sexual arousal that excludes penetration.


As we know, sexual intimacy is so much more than intercourse. Think of it as the perfect opportunity to reconnect with your partner and find