• The Lover Team

Answering Popular Questions On Low-Testosterone

Updated: Dec 10, 2020

What is low testosterone?

Testosterone is the male sex hormone that plays an important role in the sexual development and functioning of the body. It helps make sperm, build muscle mass and aid fat distribution… So it's somewhat important for some of the male attributes!

The reasons why some men have low testosterone vary (aging being the most common), although you can be born with it or acquire it through injury.

However, it’s not yet fully understood how prevalent low testosterone is among men. It’s thought testosterone reaches its peak levels in a man’s teens and twenties. This then drops by about 1% to 2% a year during a man’s forties*. As men age, this can lead to symptoms such as low desire, depression and anxiety. While this is a normal sign of aging, if you do notice a significant decline, or it comes to affect your health, it’s always best to check in with your healthcare provider. 

In this post, we’re going to answer some of the popular questions about low testosterone. 

What happens when a man’s testosterone is low? 

These are considered some of the low testosterone symptoms;

  • Having a low sex drive

  • Difficulty maintaining an erection

  • A decrease in semen production 

  • Changes in mood, including irritability or an inability to focus  

  • Loss of hair, both body and facial 

  • Having increased body fat 

How do you fix low testosterone? 

As we mentioned, the levels of testosterone in a man will gradually decrease as they age, and this is simply a natural part of getting old. That said, there are ways to increase testosterone should you wish. 

Many millions of men choose to use testosterone replacement therapy to overcome low testosterone. However, if you have other underlying health concerns, such as diabetes or obesity, this hormone therapy won’t solve the issue alone.

Typically, testosterone replacement therapy is administered via injections, gels or patches. But these will be prescribed depending on the severity of your situation, as they come with their own side-effects. See here to find out more; “Adverse Effects of Testosterone Therapy in Adult Men: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis”

Alternative methods to fix low testosterone include;

  • Exercising (a sedentary lifestyle can lead to low testosterone)

  • Maintaining a healthy weight

  • Taking vitamin D supplements (this study showed an increase in testosterone related to vitamin d intake)

  • Getting a solid nights sleep

  • sex therapy for erectile dysfunction

How to arouse a man with low testosterone

Firstly, if you’re not yet sure whether your partner has low testosterone, don’t jump to conclusions! If they are showing signs of low libido, it can be caused by many things - from stress to doing too little exercise. Check out our article here to find out more about the causes of low libido. 

However, if your partner does have low testosterone, bear in mind that this doesn’t always result in low libido. Have an open conversation about your sex life with your partner, without judgment, and find out how each of you are feeling. 

If your partner is experiencing symptoms of low libido, the most important thing here is to not catastrophize. Try not to expect too much from your partner - there are loads of other ways to connect sexually, and this will lead to increased intimacy. Be that sexual or emotional. 

You could take a bath together every now and again, or plan date nights where it can be just you two together with no distractions. You may find spending more time just kissing and caressing one another's bodies will get your partner in a better headspace for sex... Get experimental!

How can I help my partner with low testosterone? 

It's all too easy to jump to the conclusion that your partner's low libido is caused by a lack of attraction. Keep in mind that your partner IS still attracted to you, and their decreased libido is a natural result of their low testosterone. Having this awareness and understanding of what they’re going through will help ease off any tension within the relationship. 

Secondly, find ways to support your partner. For many men, being diagnosed with low testosterone can make them feel vulnerable and insecure. This probably isn’t surprising given that society has fed us the idea men always have sex on their minds… 

There are so many ways to support them, it might mean going on doctor visits with them, helping them seek sex therapy for erectile dysfunction or just checking in every now and again to see how they’re feeling. Also - letting them know you're still attracted to them, and that you care for them will also ease off any shame or guilt they may be feeling.

As we mentioned before, if your partner is less keen to have sex, find other ways to be affectionate! This will help keep the emotional connection strong, which will take the pressure off your sexual situation. 

Each couple will have their own unique way of dealing with low testosterone. The important thing is to be compassionate to yourself and your partner!

If you enjoyed this blog, check out our other article on 'How To Become More Sexually Active'. Or, download the Lover app today to start your journey to happier, healthier sex!






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