• The Lover Team

What Is Anorgasmia?

Updated: Aug 10, 2020

You might have heard of anorgasmia, you might not have. But what does it exactly mean? Does it mean the person hasn’t orgasmed before or that they can’t orgasm? 

It might surprise you (or not!) to learn that anorgasmia (or female orgasmic disorder) is the second most common issue affecting women, while it is relatively uncommon among men*. 

So what is it? Generally, this is what the term describes: 

  1. Primary anorgasmia: not having ever experienced an orgasm 

  2. Secondary anorgasmia: having lost the ability to orgasm

  3. Situational anorgasmia: being able to orgasm in certain situations, but not others (e.g. needing a certain type of stimulation)

  4. Never being able to orgasm when with a partner

It’s important to note that anorgasmia can occur even when a woman is sufficiently aroused and they’re receiving sufficient stimulation.

What causes anorgasmia? 

Anorgasmia can be caused by a variety of things, and these can be both psychological and physiological. 

It’s generally quite difficult pinpointing the root cause of anorgasmia and female orgasmic disorder, but in some cases, psychological causes can include having trouble “letting go” during sex, having a history of sexual abuse, and also anxiety or relationship issues. 

For some women, they may have underlying medical conditions like vaginismus (vaginal dryness) or pelvic trauma. It’s worth mentioning that some medications can impact on a woman's ability to orgasm - so it’s always best to check with a healthcare provider if you think this might be the case.

These are many potential causes for anorgasmia, and these are just to name a few. Each woman will have their own unique reason - so it's about working out why it might be the case for you.

When should you seek help?

Let’s be clear - every woman is different when it comes to orgasm. There is no one single route to orgasm, or time in which you should be orgasming. And, every woman will experience their first orgasm at different points in their life. That said, if you feel your inability to orgasm is affecting your enjoyment of and pleasure in sex, then it’s always best to seek help to get you back on track. 

And if you are keen to get help - there are plenty of treatment options to choose from. 

What treatments are available?

The good news is there are solutions and anorgasmia isn’t something that has to define your sex life (you can orgasm again!). 

Depending on the cause of your symptoms there are various treatments available for female orgasmic disorder. These might include making changes to your lifestyle, having therapy, and in some cases taking medication. 

At Lover, we have various expert-designed courses designed to help women overcome anorgasmia. If you are interested in finding out more - download the Lover app today, and check out our courses  ‘Orgasm 101’, ‘Climaxing Consistently’, and ‘Orgasms with a Parter’ to discover more.  

To find out more about How Lover Can Help You, visit our blog post here

*Global Library of Women’s Medicine



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