Most of us have spent the last 10 months in some shape or form confined to our homes, unable to escape to see friends or go out on the usual date nights with our partner. And it's left many of us somewhat frustrated...maybe to the point where home may be the last place you want to have a date right now!
Even if it’s a bit more difficult to head out at the moment, it's important not to give up on date night altogether. There are SO many options to choose from that can make our date night at home special and romantic.
Lover co-founder and clinical psychologist Dr. Britney Blair says that “Planning a romantic evening where the intention is to connect erotically and emotionally is more important than ever.”
Well, if you've been stuck at home with your partner for the last few months, your desire has likely waned. And that is, in part, because separation and apartness are key for the erotic. We all know there's not too much separation when you're on top of each other, working from home.
It's also been a very stressful period for many of us, and stress is not conducive to feeling sexual. In fact, 85% of people will report decreased desire when stressed.
So, we need to be actively creating a space that enables us to switch off from our day-to-day. We need to set the tone for being sexual. We need to think of new ways to connect with our partners. And, this is where a date night comes in handy!
Obviously, we’re a bit more restricted because of social distancing. But there are still loads of new and unique date ideas that can make for a special evening.
So, if you’re up for getting out of your sweatpants and into something nice, here’s a few ideas…
A picnic under the stars
All you need are some light bites and beverages. Add a cozy blanket, some pillows, and, of course, mood music to the mix.
Get a few bottles from your local shop and play sommelier. You can hide the labels of the bottle and then guess the cheapest and most expensive based on taste.
If wine isn't your choice, test it out with cheese!
If you’re tech-savvy, project a movie in your backyard, or watch it on a laptop. Snuggle up with an array of gourmet snacks and cocktails!
Zoom cooking classes
For foodies, you can book a private couples' cooking or baking class, and then enjoy the fruits of your labor.
Couples spa date
Take a warm and soothing bubble bath together. Then, transform your bedroom into a luxury suite with rose petals and aromatics, and take turns in giving your partner a sensual massage.
Have a paint party
If you enjoy the arts, gather some paints, brushes, and canvases for a creative night. For something more personal, perhaps paint portraits of each other.
In addition to offering light fun, games are both stimulating for the mind and can help strengthen your communication skills as a couple.
Pick your favorite board game or play some cards. If you're wanting to add some spice, let your partner pick one thing they've always wanted to try in the bedroom. You have 5 minutes (and five minutes only!) to do it.
One important thing Dr. Britney Blair suggests is that couples should be engaging sexually with one another every 72 hours. Otherwise, you can risk your sexual connection falling by the wayside.
For you, that might mean scheduling a date night once a week, giving your partner a sensual massage or taking a shower together. Whatever keeps the erotic connection alive.
Just keep in mind these tips if you're in need of a date night revamp!
This article has been adapted from the original; 'How to Plan a Romantic Date Night At Home', by Appgroves.
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