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3 Reasons Women Fake Orgasms and How To Start Having Real Ones

If you’re a woman, it's very likely that at some point, you’ve faked an orgasm. Sorry to be the one to deliver the bad news guys! In fact, a 2010 study found that a massive 80% of women fake orgasms during penetrative sex. That’s four out of every five women!

On the other hand, men report achieving orgasm during 90% of their heterosexual encounters, while women say it happens only 65% of the time. This is known as The Pleasure Gap. (But, let’s be real, men can fake orgasms too!)

So if women are much more likely to miss out on a real orgasm, it follows they’d be much more likely to fake one in the first place.

But the reasons run deeper than that. To get a better understanding of what is going on, Lover asked its Instagram followers to tell us their reasons for faking orgasm. This is what we heard…

“I do it so the sex will be over”

Several people (almost exclusively women) told us that faking orgasm was an effective way to bring intercourse to an amicable ending. This is called Sexual Adjournment, “faking orgasm to end sex,” according to a 2014 study by 3 psychologists at Temple University.


“When I want to stop having sex I fake my orgasm.”
“I get overstimulated by what my partner is doing, so I just sort of sit back and wait and then pretend to orgasm so it will end.”
“Sometimes I lose interest in sex and my partner during sex so I pretend to orgasm so it’ll stop.”


As humans, we mostly try to avoid awkward conversations in all parts of our life. And faking an orgasm instead of having to tell your partner you’re not going to climax is just another example of this.