Women Taking Charge In Bed
Updated: Jun 12
Modern women want to take charge in bed and decide when and how sex happens, according to the latest Lover study.
Comparing over 20,000 profiles that have been completed by users of our Sexual Profile Indicator, we were able to identify some fascinating insights into how the men and women of today's world operate in the bedroom.
And it's the women who emerge as the most likely gender to take charge in the bedroom. By some way the most popular profile among the study’s 13,100 women turned out to be "The Sovereign" – the sexual profile who likes to take the lead in bed, decide the time and place for sex and teach their lover new sexual tricks.
Examples of a typical Sovereign are the likes of Daenerys Targaryen, the bold and confident young heroine of Game of Thrones, and Mrs. Robinson, the older woman who seduces a young Dustin Hoffman in the Sixties movie classic, The Graduate.
The Sovereign was the sexual type of some 20% (19.6%) of the 13,100 women in Lover's study. This placed it well ahead of "The Adventurer" in second place, on 15.1%, and "The Sensualist" in third place, on 14.6%.
Signs Of Generational Change
Commenting on our study, Lover founder Dr. Britney Blair noted that "This result may be the sign of a generational change. It suggests that modern women feel more sexually empowered than their mothers or grandmothers and, as a result, want more control in the bedroom – or, at least, get turned on by telling their lover what they want and showing them “the ropes.”
Indeed, over two-thirds (67%) of the 13,100 women in our study were under 30 (age 17-29), with a further 20% in their thirties. They came from over 100 different countries, with the U.S. accounting for by far the largest single share.
Common Female Lover Types
So, what type of lover precisely is "The Sovereign"?
"The Sovereign enjoys being in charge and likes to take control of when – and how – sex happens", says Dr. Blair.
"She likes to be the more dominant and experienced partner – but is generous with attention and pleasure-giving and in her element leading her partner through an exploration of the erotic.”
The Adventurer, second in our female rankings, is described as "Bold, sizzling, and experimental ... not afraid to try new things", while The Sensualist, in third, is billed as "Somewhat of a hedonist, The Sensualist has an easy-going nature coupled with a relaxed approach to sex.”
Common Male Lover Types
When it comes to the nearly 10,000 (9,700) men in our study, the three most commonplace Lover Profiles were, respectively, "The Adventurer", representing 18.6% of men, followed by "The Muse" (17.6%) in second place and "The Sovereign" (17.4%) in third.
High-profile male examples of "The Adventurer" include Christian Grey from 50 Shades of Grey and Zorro, the dashing, masked hero, while female examples include Carrie Bradshaw, the heroine of Sex and The City and Catwoman, arch-foe of Batman.
What About The Rarest Profile Types?
The least common or popular sexual type for both women and men was "The Ardent", which described just 1.6% of women and just 0.6% of men.
"The Ardent" conforms to a more traditional ideal of monogamy and commitment. Loyal, patient, and often introverted, The Ardent knows the secret to making relationships last ... Ardents tend to prefer sex within the safety and comfort of a serious relationship.
Examples of The Ardent include Princess Leia from Star Wars, Marge from The Simpsons or even Britain’s Queen Victoria – and, for men, Clark Kent, the mild-mannered alter ego of Superman and steadfast partner of Lois Lane.
Find out if you're The Sovereign, The Adventurer or The Ardent by downloading the Lover app today! It's free, and it only takes a few minutes to complete the Sexual Profile Indicator and get a range of insights into your bedroom personality - along with recommended exercises to help with any areas for development.