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Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex?

Maintaining the passion within a long-term relationship is difficult. Yes, you may be much closer emotionally. But it’s likely you’re not still in those early throes of passion when you couldn’t keep your hands off eachother. If you are, lucky you! 

The good news is, some scientists have just done a deep dive into the real reason couples end up in sexless relationships. And we’re going to share them with you. 

So, whether you just want a nosy on why other people aren’t having sex. Or you’re interested in sussing out why you’re having less sex, let’s take a look at them. 

The Study 

The study was run by The Academic Journal of Evolutionary Psychology, pulling together the answers of 1,099 people, with an average age of 35. 

Overall, the scientists identified a total of 78 reasons why people stop having sex, seems a lot, right? 

70% of the participants stated at least one of these factors had taken a toll on their sex life, and 41% blamed three or more reasons! 

Interestingly, the most popular reason was ‘fading enthusiasm’. Fading enthusiasm, or having a low sex drive is a pretty inevitable part of any long-term relationship. The good news is, there's a whole load of solutions to pick from. So if this resonates with you - head over to our article, here, which will tell you how to bring that spice back into your relationship. 

‘Lack of time and space' comes in at a close second, with 31% of couples reporting it as their main sex blocker. Interestingly, not having enough space from a partner is a common cause of low sex drive in men and women. After all, sometimes all it takes is a little distance to allow the heart to grow fonder.

‘Long work hours’ came in 3rd, with 30% of people blaming it as the reason they don’t have sex. We’ve got some advice for you here, schedule in time for sex! It sounds lame, but hear us out.

If you add it to your diary, you’ll be getting yourself excited at the prospect of a sexual rendezvous. And that’s a great thing for any person’s sexual desire.